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Who said being spiritual meant you could only embody love?

So this week I got into trouble for not being the perfect spiritual example. When I say I got into trouble I was told that I am a filthy disgusting person, on a path of destruction who hurts everything in her path, and this from someone who has life coaching on their price card.

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Plug into the power of prayer and meditation

Prayer is the practice of connecting to something deeper and more meaningful in life. It is rooted in a sense of spirituality. Prayer has two dimensions, one internal in the form of self-reflection and self-awareness, and the other external in a sense of connection with a depth, something bigger than the self and an inner dependency with all the other creation.

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Positive living – why are the negatives still there?

Why do you still have negative things happen in your life, even if you practice having a positive mindset, live positively and with gratitude.
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Can negative emotions actually be good for you?

Well, lets think about this.

We can definitely agree that drama is not good for us. Yes drama queens. Every time you post that attention seeking post on facebook (flip life revolves around social media doesn’t it) you are attracting NEGATIVE ATTENTION.

Negative attention will only get you a bevy of negative nancies who will wallow with you – but never really have a CONNECTION with you. Now that is what is important… the CONNECTION..Read the rest of this entry

Music – a drug for good health and happiness

When I saw a post about music having positive effects on your brain I decided to read a little more about it.

It may seem like a lot of information, but when you realise how good music is for you no one will complain when you turn up the volume.

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Eight now has a you tube channel!  8ightTV – I have always wanted to share inspirational videos, and now this baby is mine and I am loving it. There is much more to come – I am spreading my wings – so watch this space!

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I see you…

This is a little piece for those children who are just as amazing as those who have received sporting and academic awards…

ADV0045

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Spirituality – YOUR Journey

Usually I would rather avoid talking about my spirituality. You know, religion, politics… but when three people in one day decide to minister to you – making you wonder if they think that you are a heathen – I think that it’s time to broach the subject.

My spirituality is love, it’s kindness, it’s simply believing.

Let me explain.

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I’m NO grinch

This is a piece I wrote in 2011. The grinch is still stealing “special days” LOL

I wish people would see the value of these days for what they are.

The roses and choccies are awesome, but that’s not the reason for the day. Its a day to remind you that you’re loved and that you should acknowledge those you love. What is really important is that you don’t have to spend money. Quality time and a simple “I LOVE YOU” will do the trick.

I was thinking about how many people there are in the world that is so called Grinch’s.

I love Valentine’s Day, Guyfaux (with the sparkles and romance – not the loud bangs and injuries), Christmas, April Fool’s Day and even St Paddy’s Day.

I love to give, even if it is an invisible gift or something handmade. I like people to feel special.

I love waking up on Valentine’s Day with the perfect contented feeling that I can share love and feel it too.

Yes I agree, you should tell people far more often than you actually do, and definitely not just on one day of the year.

Valentine’s Day should be a celebration of all those times that you did just that.

It should be about the time that you helped a friend in need and at the end of it all said “I love you too” or just said “I love you” at the end of a phone call.

It could be a day for someone who usually finds it difficult to say the words – to step up and feel the freedom of telling someone how much they are valued.

Valentine’s Day to me is like New Year. It gives me a new lease on life, I feel hopeful and get a dose of wind pollinated Red Bull.

I mean really open your eyes tomorrow.

Take a look at the kiddies all dressed in red and white, spreading innocence and love. Yes Grinch, take a look at that old married couple who pulled their red T-shirts out of their cupboards for the day and are staring lovingly into one another’s eyes. It’s down-right inspirational.

This brings me to today, thinking of the Grinch, and how he’s stealing Valentine’s Day.

There is so much stress, hate, drama, war, anger and disappointment running rampant like raging bulls around the world today.

Think about having one day to take a break from the harshness of the world and concentrate on Love, romance, happiness, laughter and peace.

So call me bunny hugger, call me sentimental, but I’d rather have one day that virally spreads love than a day that’s filled with hate, sadness and war.

I’ll delight in preparing a thoughtful gift and seeing bright happy faces of those I love and I’ll be lovingly accepting the handmade cards and the flowers picked from my garden.

Just remember that by being a Grinch you may just be hurting someone’s feelings, and by doing so are changing their outlook on what was a special day.

So Grinch’s – why not try sharing the love rather than spreading negativity?

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Raising a little girl – Self Esteem

Because of my past I had a very low self esteem growing up. In fact the circumstances surrounding my grand fathers death didn’t help boost my confidence either.

I want my daughter to have confidence in herself, I want her self esteem to grow so that she can have meaningful relationships.
I think this is something that every mom should want for their child. We don’t want to send our “little princesses” off into society where they are naïve, have a low self esteem and end up in an abusive relationship.

So what do we do to boost their self esteem?

I’ve told you before that I was a “people pleaser”. Ok so you get a noddy badge at the end of the day, but is that what you REALLY want? We need to raise our daughters to do things that THEY want to do.
Whether its choosing which chocolate she would like off the shelf or eventually deciding on what career path she is going to take, the decision needs to be hers. We as parents, are there to help her see her strong points and guide her in the right direction.

And for heavens sake mums, think very carefully about steering your daughter blindly into the “Toddlers and Tiara’s” lifestyle. its not all sunshine and roses…

Its important for girls to take part in a sport. My daughter enjoys dancing. When she dances it is as much as being part of a team as it builds her confidence as a young lady. When she began dancing she had a dragon for a teacher. The woman pushed these little girls so hard that going to a dancing class, which should be a balance of fun and hard work, became a drag. The woman would even go as far as turn mothers against each other.
The bitchyness was overwhelming and I had decided to pull Fairy from dancing completely, … and then I found Karen. Fairy emerged from every class with a smile although it was highly likely that she would fall asleep 10 minutes after arriving home. The perfect balance. Since dancing with Karen, Fairy’s academic work has improved too. Where as with the dragon, she was just exhausted and I doubt she had enough energy to concentrate on school work.
When you join dancing schools today, you basically sign a contract. So to get out of our “contract” with the devil, my daughter and I endured the last month of dance and then never renewed our “contract” in the new year. Many lessons learned.

When you compliment your daughter, try to steer away from complementing her appearance. Girls need to have confidence in their abilities, for fairy, its how well she sings in the choir or how hard she worked to master new dance steps. Every girl is beautiful. If she thinks she needs to compete for her “beauty standings” with other girls, its likely that she will fall into the arms of every man who calls her beautiful – just for the validation that she is. This is risky! It is one of an abusers first tactics for girls to fall into his trap. He will use her poor body image against her.

When I was a teenager my step father always pointed out my body. I swam in shorts and he would make a big deal out of it. This just made me more self conscious, and it broke the little self esteem I had down further.

To reiterate, ladies and girls of every size and shape are beautiful. Its that lady’s self esteem that makes her shine.

For dad’s it is so important that you don’t trash talk women in front of your daughter. Your words about that other woman on TV, give your daughter a negative role model, and add to a negative body image. Do you really want your little angel to use her body to get the attention of men? Do you want her to have a “bimbo” sign slashed across her fore head? I think not. Mums, just as much as dad trash talking, your negative comments about your own body impact your daughter’s body image too. So think about what you say in front of her, and rather boost that image, rather than make her more self conscious.

And dads, your little angel isn’t a “damsel in distress” either. She’s a strong beautiful woman who can accomplish anything she puts her mind to. So there’s no need for rescuing her at every turn. She needs to learn to stand up for herself. If she doesn’t learn this, what will happen when you aren’t around? With the predators we have in today’s society, I want my daughter to know that she has it in her to say “NO!”
I want her to be able to brush herself off when she falls and try and try again.

And most importantly – speak to your daughters. Speak to them about anything and everything. You want them to know that its OK to come to you if they are in trouble.
** women in abusive relationships feel ashamed and don’t always end up speaking out!**

REMEMBER If your daughter is speaking to YOU she isn’t speaking to someone who may be giving her the WRONG information.

AND ALWAYS, ALWAYS – TELL HER THAT YOU LOVE HER!

I know there are many ways to help our girls, so what would you add to this post?

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