Westville mom, Di Kendall, bared her heart and soul in her first book and built upon its success by launching another two books to help others find healing with their pets.
The 41 year old first put pen to paper in 2008, deciding it was time to find her own sense of healing from a traumatic past.
A good few years back, an author friend of mine encouraged me to write my story for her blog. She was highlighting the healing power of journaling or blogging about experiences with domestic violence.
I wrote an edited version of my experiences and circulated it since then.
In the back of my mind though, I never felt like it was enough, I felt as if I needed to receive justice for myself as well as the animals who graced my life with their presence.
When a furry family member crosses over the bridge, it’s hard on everyone, including surviving pets. Dealing with your own grief, and the grief of your human children, is difficult enough without also worrying about a remaining pet that may have stopped eating or is showing other signs of depression.
When two fur children are closely bonded and one of them dies, the surviving pet may have what experts refer to as a “distress reaction” that is similar in many ways to human grief. Some of the signs include:
Its not quite back to school yet…
This article has ideas for you to implement now, while you are on holiday.
As kids go back to school , pets may feel left behind.
When preparing for the day that kids go back to school remember to put your furkids on your prep list.
When your human kids go off to school, your pets have to begin a new routine, after having their family home and available twenty four, seven.
This is a time when they can become bored and could start chewing things that they shouldn’t. To prevent behaviours that you would rather not deal with, prep ahead….
To help ease the transition, try incorporating some of these ideas into your new school routine:
- Prep for School
The best time to start is about 2 weeks before school opens.
Plan some activities away from home, and increase the time you spend away every day.
There is no need to spend too much money, a long walk, or hike is a great example.
What is awesome about this idea is that it not only helps your pets adjust, it helps you bust your children’s “end of holiday” boredom.
- The Same Old Routine
Pets just like children, thrive on routine, a sudden change can be stressful and disorienting.
Think about the parts of your pet’s current routine – meals, walks, and training – that can stay the same, and try to stick to the established schedule.
Once again, incorporate your children into this routine, especially the littlies, and they will find it easier to adjust to being back at school too.
- New and Improved
For any routines that must be altered, replace them with new ones. For example, if you can no longer walk the dog in the morning because you’re driving your child to school…why not just take your pup along for the ride?
- Boredom Busters
Imagine being all alone without anything to do all day long.
You can’t even get yourself a snack even though the fridge is right there!
After a few days or weeks of this, you might come up with some…ahem…creative ways to entertain yourself.
Head boredom off at the pass by leaving your pet with interactive toys that engage his mind and body.
Get your children to make toys during the holiday and introduce the toys as you prepare for back to school day. This will increase their bond with your furry family members, bust their boredom, and your pets will have some new and exciting toys.
- After School Special
Talk to your children about how much your pets miss them when they’re at school. Encourage them to spend some quality one-on-one time with their special buddy when they get home. This might mean playing together in the back yard, talking to them about what they learned, or curling up on the couch and doing homework or reading out loud with the pet by their side.
Pets like to hear your voice so encourage your kids to read to them. Once again this little tip benefits both pets and kids!
- New Year, New Responsibilities
Including kids in pet-related chores is a great way to teach compassion and commitment. So with each new school year, give your child a little more responsibility when it comes to your pet. Make sure tasks are age-appropriate so that both kid and critter are set up for success!
- Weight Watchers
With school in session, chances are he’s not as active as he was during the holiday. Even just one or two extra pounds can have a detrimental effect on your pet’s health. So take a second look at his diet and adjust meals and treats as necessary.
Take this tip into consideration when deciding on boredom busters…
- Class Act
Yes, you can teach an old (or young) dog new tricks!
And why should kids have all the back-to-school fun, anyway?
New Year is the perfect time to sign your pooch up for a new training class.
Depending on where you live, you might find options that range from obedience to agility to canine choreography!
Involve your kids to keep the holiday bond going, or make use of this idea to have a supportive and encouraging buddy at your side for those New Year’s resolutions.
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💫Need to get this off my chest so please bear with me.
This demanding digital world makes my head spin. Literally.
While I have embraced it as convenient for marketing, I find it difficult to embrace in every day life.
I think others feel very much like I do. Especially empaths.
While a quick text every now and again is fine and handy. A constant barrage of messages becomes draining. ( yes, I am grounded and I am definitely shielding myself daily.)
📵Sometimes I really need a digital hiatus. Now that I think of it I need a mini digital break every day.
Younger generations seem to thrive on receiving and sending messages, all day every day.
In the back of my mind I wonder how they have so much to chat about if they are constantly texting?
Excuse my blunt humour, but do they have to reduce to the indignity of discussing their ablutions? eek 😉
I don’t understand how the energy doesn’t affect them.
If you don’t answer promptly all the time you have the regularly shared post thrown at you that reads if someone doesn’t make time for you constantly that they don’t care… or some blah dee blah BS.
Let me break my life down for you… and maybe you’ll see that I am simply living…
Maybe you will relate to my life and understand. Maybe you won’t.
Just because I work from home doesn’t mean that I sit around and do nothing.
I chose what I do, not only because I love it, but because it combines my life time dream of wanting to work with animals, AND my love for creativity, AND most of all I get to be there for my children when they get home from school.
I want more than anything for this business to be a success.
1⃣At the same time I want my children to know that they are my number one.
⚖I really think that I have created a perfect balance there.
If I don’t answer you immediately, it simply means that I am implementing my balancing act…
I’m working, designing posts and advertising, doing comms, writing blogs;
I’m assisting with homework, speaking to teachers, helping my child with a mountainous zit;
I’m doing some chores, cooking, cleaning, doing groceries;
I’m cutting the dogs nails, bathing him, taking him for a walk;
I’m feeding my cats;
I’m ranting and the only one listening is the bird because he is acknowledging me!
I’m taking a digital hiatus, taking some ME TIME;
I’m enjoying family time;
I’m watching TV;
I’m playing music and blocking out the world;
💩Oh and I do need time for ablutions.
So yes if my replies to my friends are delayed and I can’t text 4 times a day every day, it’s not that I don’t care.
I am simply busy with life, and I thrive off my balancing scales.
So please don’t take offence.
I certainly don’t take offence when you say that you are snowed under…
That’s how life goes.
The greatest friendships last through the storms of life, distance, time, getting married, having children, work and play…. because there’s a mutual understanding, a silent code and it’s something rare and special.
Remember that… ❤💛💚💙💜
Hope you have a beautiful day.
Love, light, purrs and wags
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One of the most troubling times of the year for pet owners is fireworks season.
The best way to approach something that your pets react negatively to is to be prepared.
If your pet reacts fearfully to loud noises, fireworks and the loud bangs that come along with it are going to be an issue.
So this week I got into trouble for not being the perfect spiritual example. When I say I got into trouble I was told that I am a filthy disgusting person, on a path of destruction who hurts everything in her path, and this from someone who has life coaching on their price card.
Prayer is the practice of connecting to something deeper and more meaningful in life. It is rooted in a sense of spirituality. Prayer has two dimensions, one internal in the form of self-reflection and self-awareness, and the other external in a sense of connection with a depth, something bigger than the self and an inner dependency with all the other creation.
My thoughts on age – well, it doesn’t matter.
Why do I say this?